8 Ways To Make A Man Feel Like A Man (2023)

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UPDATED: Jan. 4, 2021 —

The male ego is fragile. In fact, astudy published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology discovered that male self-esteem dropped when men were told their wives performed better on a test than they did. As crazy as that sounds, the fact is, men’s self-esteem can be bruised without us not fully understanding why.

But regardless of their self-esteem status, men need to know you care, that you are appreciative, and that you love them. Just as daily compliments and sweet kisses make us feel wanted and attractive, there are similar things we can do for our men to help validate their ego.

The things we say and do mean much more than men lead us to believe. Seldom do they admit to their specific emotional needs but, in many ways, they want the same things. Your man wants to feel loved; he wants to feel attractive; he wants to feel capable and needed.

Meeting those needs doesn’t take a lot of money or require rocket science. As with all relationships, ultimately, it is the small (but far from minor) things that count. Has your man been down in the dumps? Or are you looking to keep his spirits high? Take an assessment and even if he is his normal silly self, he still needs to understand that you love him.

Here are a few tips for making a man feel needed and wanted:

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1. Let him order for you.

Ask him to take you to one of his favorite restaurants and insist he orders for you. Since it’s his spot, he will enjoy selecting something he’s certain you will like. And, if you don’t like it, don’t stress. Just send it back and let him try again.

Also, if you are not into him paying for the bill, offer to get dessert or cocktails at another restaurant. Offering to pick up the tab is always a nice way to show that you are a confident woman who is not taking advantage of him. Just be mindful that not all men want you to pay for things.

A study from EliteSingles revealed that it’s time to rethink the stereotype that women want men to pay for the first date. In fact, the study of 300,000 singles shows that it’s actually men who are more likely to think that men should foot the bill. 63% of men believe it is the man’s job to pay on a first date.

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2. Attend his company events.

If you and your guy work in different industries, this is the perfect chance to let him professionally flex his arm candy. Men are often proud of the women they love, so let him bask in showing you off.

Need help in being a likable person? First, resist the urge to label people. “We use words to label people and experiences as good or bad,” says Karen McGregor, leadership and influence expert and author of The Tao of Influence.

As soon as we label something, our mind creates the opposite. If we label someone as a rational person, we will judge others to be irrational. If we label someone as smart, we will find others to judge as stupid. Catch yourself labeling, which serves only to separate “us” from “them” and choose to stop.

As we release the language of duality and refuse to describe people according to our preferences, we relax and surrender into acceptance without trying to change them or defend ourselves.”

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3. Make him a plate of healthy foods.

Waiting on your man lets him know he is special and you want to take care of him. Whether you are visiting in-laws, attending a cookout or eating Chinese takeout at home, make a plate for the booskie—at least every once in a while. He will feel like he’s doing his job and be inspired by your appreciation.

Also, don’t be afraid to make healthy food decisions together. A2015 study by Sarah E. Jackson, Andrew Steptoe and Jane Wardle found that partners who made health changes together were more likely to stick to their new healthy habits.

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4. Put him in charge of the directions.

Men like to think they are good at following and remembering directions. When he insists on knowing how to get somewhere, say O.K. Better yet, put the ball in his court and suggest he take the responsibility. You know, because he’s so gifted.

And remember, if you are traveling anywhere be sure to be safe. According to the centers for disease control and prevention, travel increases your chances of spreading and getting COVID-19. Some travel activities, like the transportation you choose and where you stay, can increase your risk of getting COVID-19. be smart and know your travel risk.

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5. Give him full reign in the bedroom.

Don’t speak just moan and give your man complete control. Let him flip you up, down, over, under—whatever he wants (within predetermined parameters, of course). Talk dirty, scream and groan so he can take credit for the bad girl moment. He will fall asleep feeling like a stallion.

According to research by Gilda Giebel,if a passive but nice partner is seen as boring, then people who are especially averse to boredom in their lives will be the most likely to seek out dominant partners.

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6. Pleasure him while driving.

Men love oral sex, especially when it’s uninhibited and spontaneous. Unzip his pants (safely!) while he’s driving and make that trip to church a little more exciting. The good news is, men commonly take 7 to 14 minutes to climax, so ideally he’ll finish before you reach your destination.

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7. Give him a massage.

Ease him into the night after a long workday with a pre-or post-shower massage to help relieve tension. Tell him how hard you know he works and how much you admire his ambition.

Sure massages can lead to sex (and that’s a good thing!), but they also have medical benefits. According to the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health, massages have been studied for several types of pain, including low-back pain, neck and shoulder pain, pain from osteoarthritis of the knee, and headaches. So get to work, ladies! Doctor’s orders.

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8. Thank him.

Saying “Thank you” doesn’t have to be for anything out of the ordinary. In fact, it will probably go further if it isn’t. Focus on the small things like how he always opens doors or takes the initiative to make minor repairs around your home. Let him know you are thankful to have a man who can care for you and your family and he’ll be more open to doing bigger tasks for you.

Need tips? Here are a few creative ways to say thank you:

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  • Write a thank-you note and give it to him.
  • Keep a gratitude journal and let him read the parts that mention him.
  • Give a small thank you gift.
  • Create a youtube video for him.
  • Surprise him with an act of kindness.
  • Give hugs after a long day.
  • Learn to say “Thank you” in multiple languages and say them to him often.
  • Write a thanksgiving poem.
  • Send a thoughtful message to him on social media.

LaShaun Williams is a lifestyle and relationship columnist, blogger and social critic. Her work has been featured on popular urban sites, such as The Grio and AOL Black Voices. She has made appearances on the Tom Joyner Morning Show and Santita Jackson Show. Williams is also the founder of Politically Unapologetic, a blog where she unabashedly discusses culture, life and love. Follow @itsmelashaun on Twitter, Tumblr or Facebook.

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What 3 things a man needs in a relationship? ›

According to Steve Harvey, if you provide a man with these three things in a relationship, he won't leave: support, loyalty, and intimacy. Harvey says that men may hide behind their macho demeanors, but in the end they just want to feel special.

How do you touch a man to make him feel? ›

TOUCH IT: Gently trace the tips of your fingers across his jaw, starting at his earlobe and working your way down. Lightly stroking this area stimulates sensitive nerves in his face, says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide To Pleasuring A Man.

What does a man need to feel loved? ›

Men Need Love and Affection

In plain language: Men often feel most loved by the women in their lives when their partners hug them, kiss them, smile at them, and explicitly offer gratitude, praise, and words of affection. Men also feel loved and connected through sexuality, often to a greater degree than women do.

How do you make a man needs you? ›

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  1. Call him by cute names often:
  2. Keep him guessing:
  3. Touch him unexpectedly:
  4. Small changes do make a big difference:
  5. Compliment him often:
  6. Take him down the memory lane:
  7. Give him ample space:
  8. Smell good at all times:
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What does a man want from a woman he loves? ›

Both men and women consistently cite emotional stability and maturity as one of the most attractive traits in a potential spouse. While men often fall victim to the stereotype of prioritizing physical attraction, when it comes to a potential wife, they want a woman who is grounded and secure in herself.

What are men's 5 basic needs? ›

Food, water, clothing, sleep, and shelter are the bare necessities for anyone's survival. For many people, these basic needs can not be met without the aid of charitable organizations. A reliable place to receive a meal can be what's needed for a person to focus on obtaining higher needs.

What are the 5 bonding stages for a man? ›

Appreciation, infatuation, attraction, impression, and conviction are the 5 bonding stages for a man.

How do you touch a man emotionally? ›

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  2. The importance of physical touch.
  3. Remain a mystery.
  4. Take an interest in his life.
  5. Take an interest in his hobbies.
  6. Have an affirming attitude.
  7. Show respect.
  8. Surprise him.
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What keeps a man in a relationship? ›

Clear communication, respect, and honesty can go a long way in helping them open up and reveal their innermost desires or insecurities. While you need to pay attention to their unspoken words and cues, giving them their personal space is also important in strengthening the relationship and communication further.

How do you make a man fall deeply for you? ›

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  4. Smell great. ...
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How do you treat a man to make him feel special? ›

  1. Compliment him. ...
  2. Tell him you appreciate what he does for you and your family. ...
  3. Make time for things to get hot in the bedroom. ...
  4. Be supportive of his alone time. ...
  5. Put down your phone. ...
  6. When you get something for yourself, get something for him, too. ...
  7. Look him in the eyes.

How do men show love? ›

Maintaining close physical contact

If a man wants to show that he loves you, he will always want to stay close to you. However, when it comes to how do guys express their feelings, you will notice that they maintain physical proximity with you. He might hold your hand, hug you or wrap his arm around you.

How to excite a man without touching him? ›

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  5. Anything that's see-through. ...
  6. Confidence.
  7. Showing part of your thigh. ...
  8. Wearing a dress or top that is low cut in the back.
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How a man shows love without saying it? ›

For example, he holds your hand, has his arms around you, hugs you, always sit close to you, etc. 2- He puts a lot of efforts to make you feel loved. He brings random gifts for you, sings a song for you on a special day, makes time to talk to you anyhow, makes sudden plans, etc. 3- He always listens to you properly.

How a man loves you deeply? ›

He will pay attention to your wants and needs and make an effort to give it to you. He listens to your requests, tries to accommodate your wishes, and does things you say will make you happy. And he does it happily because he wants to make you happy.

What makes a man feel less of a man? ›

“What makes a man less of a man is not knowing what he wants. Being rude to friends and family, not having respect for himself and others around them. If he's not motivated in life or invested in his future, he lets others do the work for him, and doesn't make his own decisions.

What makes a man masculine? ›

Traits traditionally viewed as masculine in Western society include strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness.

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  6. Accept your partner. ...
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What makes man lose interest in a woman? ›

1- When something weird happens in your man's life, their stress level gets increased. Due to this, they seem to be detached from you. You also may not see them investing in the relationship. During that time, you should be calm and give company to your man rather than complaining about his behaviour.

What makes a man lose interest in bed? ›

But sometimes loss of sex drive is related to an underlying condition. Depression, stress, alcoholism, illicit drug use and fatigue often can be factors in loss of sex drive in men.

What makes a man to lose feelings for a woman? ›

05/6You gave it up too soon

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Men tend to have a strong brow bone that protrudes further than their female counterparts, with straighter eyebrows. A nose that is straight or with a dorsal hump is considered more masculine than a nose with a gentle curvature and a lift at the tip of the nose. Masculine lips also tend to be thinner.

What are the qualities of a real man? ›

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What is the true definition of a man? ›

: an individual human. especially : an adult male human. (2) : a man belonging to a particular category (as by birth, residence, membership, or occupation) usually used in combination.

How do you make a man want you all the time? ›

How to make him want you more: 8 tips to make him crave for you!
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  2. Keep him guessing:
  3. Touch him unexpectedly:
  4. Small changes do make a big difference:
  5. Compliment him often:
  6. Take him down the memory lane:
  7. Give him ample space:
  8. Smell good at all times:
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