It’s easy to get caught up in the vices of romance and how it can make you feel.
But if you want more out of life, you might want to try and stop wanting a relationship.
You may wonder why, but here’s the thing:
Relationships are a wonderful thing.
It can bring us joy and happiness, but sometimes it can also bring us heartache and pain.
Sometimes we just want a break from the commitment that comes with a relationship.
We might be tired of all the drama in our lives, or maybe we just want to focus on ourselves for a bit.
Whatever the reason may be, you’re not alone. Many people have had this thought cross their mind before: “Why do I need another person?”
Take some time to reflect on your situation; what could change in your life if you stopped wanting a relationship?
Here are 15 effective ways to help you stop wanting a relationship:
1) Focus on your hobbies.
Take the time to explore your interests and hobbies.
As you get more experience in life, it is important to find something that will make your heart sing.
It could be anything from writing a blog or making jewelry to playing football or singing on the stage.
If you’ve been feeling drained in your relationship, you might want to start focusing on yourself again.
Take some time out of each day and explore whatever interests you have most so that they can grow into passions of their own!
Take some time to learn a new skill, or do an activity that you always wanted to try.
You’ll feel less stressed, and you’ll feel better knowing that you can do things on your own.
2) Focus on your health.
Taking care of yourself is very important.
You don’t want to put off going to the doctor or putting off seeing a therapist when you need to see one.
It’s the bright side of not being in a relationship.
You will have more time to actually plan for your daily routine so you can have a healthier lifestyle.
You will be able to make better decisions when it comes to what you want and need in life.
Time is the most valuable resource that we all possess, but many people don’t realize how much they are wasting by getting stuck in a hopeless relationship.
Now if you have more time to plan ahead of time, you will be able to have a healthier work-life balance.
3) Get outside of your comfort zone.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you might be feeling stuck and stagnant in your life.
You might start to feel bored with your daily activities and want to try something new.
In order to be able to live a life that is fulfilled, you need new experiences.
If your past lifestyle doesn’t offer enough of these opportunities and excitement, because you have always been in a relationship, then it might be time for a change.
Fortunately there are many ways in which one can try something new without having to leave their comfort zone or spend too much money on the experience:
- Try volunteering at an animal shelter;
- Take up cooking classes;
- Go out with friends and do activities like hiking or camping instead of staying home all weekend watching TV with your boyfriend.
Sometimes it’s important to take on challenges that make you feel vulnerable, scared and uncertain.
When you do this it will help your confidence grow in the future when things get easy again.
It also helps build a sense of accomplishment when doing something difficult or scary because once completed, people can’t say they didn’t try their best!
4) Focus on your career.
If you’re not in a relationship and don’t have a lot going on in your life, then it’s time to focus on your career.
This is one of the most important aspects of modern-day living that people need to take into account when they are striving for success.
If you want to be successful at work or school, then there needs to be an emphasis placed on finding fulfillment outside of relationships with other people.
It takes more than just being single; it also means taking care of yourself emotionally as well as physically by exercising regularly and eating healthily.
You should be able to do whatever you want without being dependent on someone else.
And if you’re not happy with what you’re doing with your life, then it’s time to make a change.
It’s important to take action, and change is an inevitable part of life.
If you’re not happy with your current situation or career path, then it might be time for a new one.
The key here is to find what makes you feel fulfilled in the long run because that will allow you to enjoy your day-to-day activities more than before.
5) Try educate yourself.
If you have some spare time, try to educate yourself.
There are a lot of things that you can learn on your own and it’s better than sitting around feeling sad and lonely all the time.
And since there is so much information available on the internet these days, it’s easy to find interesting things to study on your own.
This is one of the benefits that come with having access to information on the internet.
It’s easy to find things online and study them in your own time which can be a lot more convenient than finding classes or going out into the world for it.
With so many resources available, you never have to worry about not being able to learn something new because there are always ways around learning anything if you don’t want too much effort put into it.
Instead of spending your time thinking about finding new people, it’s more practical to keep your mind busy by education.
6) Get a pet.
If you don’t have someone to be with, then you can always get a pet that will keep you company.
This is one of the best ways to find some happiness when you’re feeling lonely.
Animals are great companions because they don’t judge you based on your appearance or personality, and it’s good to know that there is at least one person out there who likes you for who you are.
If you’re thinking about getting a pet, then it’s important to do some research into it first so that you know what to expect from it.
A lot of people think that pets are just like humans when they really aren’t and this can lead to a lot of disappointment if you don’t know what to expect from them.
Like humans, pets have their own personalities and they will act differently depending on the situation they’re in.
Good news is, unlike humans, pets won’t be able to talk back to you or ask questions about why you’re feeling down.
So you don’t have to worry about being judged by them or having to explain yourself to them.
If you have a pet, then it’s guaranteed that you’ll always have someone to talk to and someone who will listen to whatever is on your mind.
7) Always remember that life is short.
If you’ve been constantly stuck in a relationship and they didn’t take you anywhere, then remember that life is short and you should now spend time wisely.
You don’t want to look back when you’re old and think about all the things that you could have done if you had just taken some chances.
It’s important to remember that there are a lot of things out there to do and see, and the best way to do this is by putting yourself out there and meeting new people.
If you’re feeling lonely, then it’s important to realize that it’s not a sign of something being wrong with what you’re doing or who you are but it just means that now is not your time.
It’s important to remember that life is short so don’t waste it on bad relationships because you could always be out there and doing something that will make you feel better.
8) Spend more time with family.
Family is one of the most important things in a person’s life and you should never forget to see them because they are always there for you no matter what.
If you’re feeling lonely, then it’s best to contact your family and see if they’ll help you out with your problems.
They’re there to help you so don’t be afraid to ask them for advice or just someone to talk to.
It’s important to remember that family is always there for you because they are the only people who will love and support you unconditionally no matter what.
Family can provide stability, guidance, help with problems or just be a good listener when needed.
They also have your back in times of need as well when friends may not be around or if something happens like death in the family members.
Family bonds are strong and never break even though sometimes it might seem like things get tough.
But in the end, family always pulls through.
9) Spend more time with friends.
True friends will always be there for you no matter what.
They’ll listen to you and help with your problems without judging you, even if the problem is something they don’t understand or know how to fix.
They are there to support you and cheer you up when needed.
It’s important to remember that friends are more than just people who can be there for you, but they can also be a good source of advice or just someone to talk too about any subject.
If your friends don’t live nearby, you can still keep in touch with them through social media, phone calls or emails because these things can help strengthen the bond between friends.
10) Spend more time to travel.
Traveling is one of the most adventurous things that you can do and it’s also a great way to meet new people, learn about different cultures, and make memories.
Now that you have more time (and money) to yourself because you are not involved in any relationship, spending more time to travel is a good choice.
With more time to yourself, you can travel and explore different parts of the world.
This is a very wise choice because it will help you learn about other cultures as well as give your mind some fresh air.
People normally travel with their loved ones. But if you don’t have anyone to travel with, it’s a better chance for you to meet new friends, make new connections, and learn from new people.
11) Be financially independent.
Be financially independent, meaning you don’t have to rely on the use of money from anyone else in your life to make ends meet – not even your parents or significant other.
Being financially independent is a great way to start growing up and taking responsibility for your actions.
It will also help you learn how to budget your money and save for future goals.
If you are financially independent, you will have more chances to focus on yourself than to keep looking for someone else to help you with money.
Believe it or not, some people tend to look for someone that can give them nice treats and buy them things.
People who are looking for someone to buy them things often fall into one of two categories: they are seeking materialistic validation, or they have an addictive personality that needs a lot of attention.
For these people, the idea is not about finding love and happiness in their relationship but rather getting what you want through another person’s resources.
On the other hand, those with a more spiritual approach might be searching for something else entirely – maybe it’s somebody who can provide them with some sort of comfort and security.
If you are not one of them, or you don’t want to be one of them, then you should learn how to be financially independent.
Trust me. You’ll be glad you did.
Being financially independent is the most important thing as this world now provides so many interesting things for you to learn and try.
And you need cash to be able to do that.
It may sound a bit too materialistic, but for what it’s worth, having money is still better than being stuck in a situation where you have to depend on someone’s mood to give you the thing you want.
12) Being more confident to meet new people.
If you are always afraid of meeting new people, especially when you are in a relationship, it might be because your ex has controlled you too much.
Now as you are free from relationships, it’s time for you to be more confident to meet new people.
In order to be more confident, it’s important that you develop your social skills and get out there. The best way is through practice.
This means going outside of your comfort zone and talking with people who are different from you in order to make friends so that when you do meet someone new, they’ll be more likely interested in getting to know each other better as well.
It also means being open-minded about things like trying something new—whether it’s joining an art class at a local college or taking up meditation for the first time ever!
It is also helpful if you start by joining a group or organization in which people share similar interests with those of yours.
There are many opportunities for meeting new people through these groups so don’t pass them up!
13) You don’t have to care about what others think of you.
Think about it like this:
You have always been in a relationship and constantly had to please your ex because their opinions are the priority.
We’ve been there.
It is very common that when you are in a relationship, you will have to put on a certain mask and act in a certain way just to please your partner.
That is the thoughts of someone who has been in a relationship for a long time.
You have always put your ex’s needs before your own, but now you want to change that because it is not healthy.
Now you are free from that relationship, you will be able to pay attention only to yourself rather than constantly taking care of what others need or how others feel about you – so you can finally love yourself again.
If you want to wear a certain type of clothes that they didn’t like, now wear it.
If you want to hang out with certain friends, go ahead!
Now this is your time to be yourself and just do whatever your heart desires.
14) You can be more open-minded.
If you have been in a relationship for a long time, then it is likely that you have been closed-minded about certain things.
It is definitely understandable because you have always lived with your ex and had to be careful about what you do.
It’s also because you didn’t have a chance to meet new people and get to know others’ stories.
Meeting new people means that you can broaden your knowledge and be more open-minded about what is out there.
You will find out that there are many interesting things to do and people to meet in the world.
You will also realize that there are many different ways to live life.
There is no one way, or right way, and everyone has their own personal journey in life.
You will be able to understand the world better and be less judgmental as you learn about other cultures, religions, lifestyles… that may not be your own and this allows for a deeper understanding of why they act the way they do.
In addition to learning more about different people’s lives in general, it also helps with bettering yourself as well as becoming more open-minded towards others.
15) Do something that makes you feel good instead of trying to find someone who makes you feel good.
You need to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while and don’t have much going on in your life, then it’s time to get out there and start doing things.
And you don’t need to waste your time waiting around for someone so you can feel better about yourself.
You should take care of what is most important and that’s being happy with who you are right now, which means not wasting any more time on people who aren’t worth it or won’t make a difference in your life.
What makes you happy is different for everyone; it could be going on a vacation, spending time with friends or family, or working on an interesting project.
It’s important to find what brings happiness and fulfillment in your life because if you can’t do that by yourself then even if you are with someone else, you will never feel the fulfillment.
And that’s also making the other tired.
If you feel good about yourself and the things that you do, then you’ll be more confident and won’t feel the need to rush into a relationship.
And when you’re ready to get into a relationship, it will be because you want it, not because you need it.
And the best part?
You might be surprised to hear that there’s one very important connection you’ve probably been overlooking:
The relationship you have with yourself.
I learnt about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his incredible, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you the tools to plant yourself at the center of your world.
And once you start doing that, there’s no telling how much happiness and fulfillment you can find within yourself and with your relationships.
So what makes Rudá’s advice so life-changing?
Well, he uses techniques derived from ancient shamanic teachings, but he puts his own modern-day twist on them. He may be a shaman, but he’s experienced the same problems in love as you and I have.
And using this combination, he’s identified the areas where most of us go wrong in our relationships.
So if you’re tired of your relationships never working out, of feeling undervalued, unappreciated, or unloved, this free video will give you some amazing techniques to change your love life around.
Make the change today and cultivate the love and respect you know you deserve.
Click here to watch the free video.
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- 1) Focus on what you have. ...
- 2) Embrace solitude without being lonely. ...
- 4) Don't force yourself to date. ...
- 5) Spend time with yourself. ...
- 6) Give yourself plenty of self-care and self-compassion. ...
- 8) Delete those dating apps. ...
- 9) Do what makes you feel good.
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The Need For Intimacy
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- You don't have crushes on people. ...
- You are open to dating, but you try to bury the idea. ...
- You ghost potential romantic partners. ...
- You avoid dates and hangouts. ...
- People accuse you of leading them on.
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- Practice good self-care. ...
- Find a new hobby. ...
- Remember you don't have to be in a relationship to feel connected. ...
- Let your friends and family help you feel connected.
"One of the major signs that tells you if the person you're dating is right for you is how they treat you when you're sad, crying, having a bad day, or just emotional. Are they compassionate? Are they attentive? Do they stop what they're doing to give you their attention?What is the good enough rule? ›
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Around 1-3 months is considered “normal” for most couples.
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Craving affection is a perfectly normal thing. In fact, physical touch has countless health benefits. And not just physically, either. It's really for mental and emotional health.How do I stop craving someone? ›
- Understand you're worthy.
- Accept it.
- Find support.
- Look within.
- Unfollow them.
- Watch out for triggers.
- Don't reach out.
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- Take a long walk or do some other exercise.
- Take a hot soothing bath.
- Read an interesting book or magazine.
- Write in your personal journal.
- Call a friend and strike up a conversation.
- By becoming emotionally stronger.
- Staying in touch with both negative and positive emotions instead of seeking refuge in someone else the moment you feel down.
- Learning to be there for yourself.
- Understand triggers to emotional dependence.
- Decide for yourself.
- Don't seek permission.